We talk about Women empowerment, we organize or participate in rallies, we organize talk shows, and any such programs that helps to raise awareness about the welfare of women.
There’s always been few questions boggling on my mind, are these acts making any difference in the society? Are the rallies conducted in the city areas or the programs telecasted on televisions making any difference on the rural areas where even the electricity hasn’t reached yet? Are the minimal field visits of the organizations set up in the valleys that work with the slogan of bringing change in women’s status, actually helping to bring a difference?
Who can give the guarantee that the principal of a school who strictly implements the rule that there should not be any violence based on the gender or any abuse done to any student, would not do the same himself, be it in the schools compound or at his home? Who can give the assurance that a politician who gives an hours speech on equalizing men and women status does not point out differences between his own son and daughter back home? Who says that a police officer who puts the rapists behind the bars would not tend to take advantage of a lonesome girl?
What if a lawyer who helps a woman fight for her rights, would not even be allowing his spouse to go to the vendors? What if a person who walks down the allies in a rally for providing justice to women, seeks for a bride whose family is capable of providing enough dowry to him? What if a boy who is taught to respect females, is secretly shooting mms for money? What if a brother who goes for late night parties with his girlfriend does not even allow his sister to talk to her male friends? What if a guy who romances every day with his partner does not let the maid to enter into the kitchen during her periods?
What if a youngster who recently gave an interview for working in a women welfare based organization, is taking advantage of the crowded bus and dashing on a girl purposely, on his way back home? What if a child who is taught about various social issues and its impacts at school, hears a heartwarming laugh of his grandfather on reading the headlines that states “A lady killed by villagers, claiming her to be a witch”?
So, I wanted to know, what kind of change are we talking about here? Is equalization of women just an outer cover? All I see is our society is draped with curtains, the truth is something else which is hidden behind the walls.
As per my opinion, rallies or talk shows does help attract attention of people on the issues but when it comes into implementation, those discussions held or the slogans chanted isn’t helping bring much of a difference. Many would not agree to it but I believe literacy and self-realization are the only factors that will help us eradicate social issues related to women and help bring equality between two beautiful creations of god.
Both men and women need to self-realize and work on the issues individually first and then together as a whole. It’s a woman who needs to be strong enough to know her worth. She should realize that she isn’t brought to this world to just give birth and take care of household chores. She needs to learn that no one else has right to take or impose decisions about her life. A girl from her early age should be taught that she is the master of her own life and no one can take that power from her, nor her husband nor her brother or her father. She needs to respect herself and be independent in her thoughts and actions so that no human can look her with disrespect. And a man should realize that a woman/girl is no toy. She is a human like them and she has her own will. One needs to understand that, she isn’t a playful material where aggression, anger, or intimidating feelings are taken out on. Instead of teaching boys should not cry, they should be taught that boys don’t make others cry.
A little change in every individual’s thought is necessary because, unless and until each individual brings a change into himself/herself, this problem won’t eradicate from the society. But if not there will be a never ending lines of “What if’s”.
It’s a high time we work on it to build a better society to live in. So, let’s get started, before it’s too late!!!